Does Goodness Deserve Loyalty?

 

This question has been lingering in my mind for a long time. If I pose this question to anyone, the answer would be an obvious No. But, if I change the question and ask this if nicety is taken for granted or considered as someone's right, how do you respond?

Now, why am I asking this question? Well, I have a maid who has been working for nearly a decade. Unlike everyone else, she comes to my house only when I call her which is maybe once or twice a week. Understanding her situation back home, I ensured she gets paid the same amount as her other employers in whose house she goes every day without a break.

Even when I had moved abroad, I continued to pay her. Even during the lockdown, she lost her job almost everywhere but I continued. My whole thought process was that instead of helping any unknown person, I should help a person whom I know personally.

But here comes the problem, whenever she needs money and she asks me as if it is her right. I did help her financially on a couple of occasions without expecting her to pay back and at the end of the month, she still expected to be paid her full salary.  

What saddened me was that even if I had called her for work, she wouldn't turn up and I see her working for my neighbor where she doesn't have any such expectations.

This month I had similar incidents. One day she came home and asked me to reach out to my friends in the US and start a donation drive for her ailing mother. I just ignored her statement and she did her work and left.

A few days later, I called her for work, but she didn't turn up. Today, I saw her at my neighbor's house and asked her to come to work. She came and did a very half-hearted job.

The question popped up in my mind, I have been helping her but why is she taking me for granted? She is loyal to people who don't even exchange pleasantries with her.

 I am not a perfect human being, I have my shortcomings too. What do you think I need to do now?

Guns 'n' Roses

 

Thor, Love and Thunder soundtrack made me listen to Guns'n'Roses's Sweet child o' mine after a long time. It's one of my Liked songs on my Spotify list. More than the song it's the memory associated with
the song that made me look back to my younger days.

Immediately after my graduation, I got a job where I met an incredible bunch of people. It was my first time away from home but these people never let me miss home. Though we didn't speak the same language, there was lots of warmth and affection among us.

In this group, we had this insanely talented guy who had learned the strings all by himself. He was the musician in the group, playing and singing Western and Bollywood songs with ease. It was during those
times, the early 2000's we had the email boom, and this guy had his email ID as axlrose***@xyz.com. Any gettogether, he was ready with his guitar, singing songs so effortlessly. It was due to him, that I
explored Guns'n'Roses, Queen, etc to name a few

We were in touch till we worked for the same organization, then he left for higher education in the US. When I heard the soundtrack of Thor, I remembered him, his ever-smiling face, and all those good

Conjectures over Corona

Many have shared opinions on Corona, what to do, what not to do, whether to have lockdown or not over social media, newspapers, news channels, etc. Herd immunity, lockdown, many such jargons were thrown in. However, within the current population, no one has experienced such a pandemic before. The virus did bring the entire world to a standstill, and with all the lockdown in place, it still found its way, infecting anyone that came the way.  Plotting a chart, checking the patterns doesn't help, they are mere conjectures from scientists, epidemiologists, and purists.

The solution to containing the virus lies within each human being. However, has anyone ever been successful in analyzing human behavior? Everyone's thoughts ought to align and they should work in cohesion, an impossible feat to achieve. Till then, let the virus make us dance to its tunes.

Universe Conspiring Mane Story

This may sound absurd but it is a true story. I never had a fascination with long hair since childhood. The shorter, the better was always my myntra. My parents took it in their stride or they accepted me as a tomboy. All through my growing years, I had maintained my short hair look.

It was during my pre-university time, my grandmom visited us and decided to stay back for a few months. During that period, we found a long lost connection and all she requested was to see me in long hair. I budged. As she was around, it was not difficult to maintain my mane.

During my graduation and the first few years of my employment, I had hair till my shoulder. There were few relatives who thought I looked good with that look. Opinions matters during that stage. One fine day, I went ahead and shortened my mane. What triggered that action, I still have no explanation. That look stayed for a few years.

I succumbed to the pressure of elders as they thought no suitors will agree to my hairstyle.  Around the late 20s and early 30s, I got inspired by the straight hair look and went ahead and got my hair chemically treated.  That was the worst decision I had taken, not only it was a costly affair but also it damaged my hair.

My rebel soul woke up again and I went ahead to shorten my straightened locks. There was no looking back again. Many did tell me to be more feminine and to grow my hair but this time I was very determined.

I had shifted to the US and that stint really was a revelation. The female who is supposed to be the "man" in the lesbian community adorns such a hairstyle. I was approached by many females in clubs and pubs as they misread my hairstyle.

When I returned back to India, I had this deep desire to be this typical Indian girl in kurta pyjamas, bindi on her forehead, and neatly partitioned hair.  But I had become so used to my short hair and its hassle-free maintenance.

With the corona scare and the nation under complete lockdown, and no parlors opened, my hair has started growing. I feel that this is the way, the universe has conspired to get me what I wanted.

October Challenge

I need it as much as you want it
When I need you and you need me
We shall together do it together
Till then,
Don't misconstrue my silence
And force yourself on me!

#consent #intimacy

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Don't worry, say sorry
Convenient way to cover up for one's actions

#sorry

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If I were Ravan
I would never abduct Sita as I know what the outcome would be

#ravan #dussehra

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Friend "You look depressed. What is your problem?"
Me "Well, not having any problem is my problem."

#problem #kbc

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Beware and be aware, Karma can strike any time!

#karma #dussehra

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If I were a pilot
Though I will be always up in the air
I will remain grounded

#airforceday


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Your faith in yourself can change your fate!

#faith

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If you were paid for every word you spoke
You may end up being eloquent with your words
But, will you be elegant with your thoughts?

#paidforeveryword

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I chose to be happy
Instead of chasing it
And it made the difference

#choice #chase

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I am feeling so low, even getting high doesn't help

#low

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Eat + Exercise + Sleep = Good Health
If health is taken care of, rest will be a cakewalk!

#2019

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I am too raw for a RAW agent and it will be definitely a raw deal for them

#raw


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Seven

"You can do it tomorrow." said sloth with ease
"What is love without desire?" asked lust to tease
"If you are angry, let it out." said wrath with a frown
"You deserve more." stated greed with a moan
"You are different from the rest." said pride
"Why them and not me?" envy cried"
"You are never devoid of hunger." said gluttony
The sins leaving me in a state of mental agony

YourQuote Challenges

I am what I am
A little shade of white
A little shade of grey
Stay afar or hold me tight
Or bend a little my way!!

#whatami #stigma

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Things I don't say out loud
I say it through social media
Trolls, comments, I do it all
Under a dauntless disguise

#idontsay #socialmedia #coward

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Love, a feeling, so tender
Why restrict it based on gender?
Truth eventually wins
Against societal abstract sins!!

#section377

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I cleared all my exams
But I have failed in life!!

#exam #irony

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I'm inspired when
Nature breaks her forgiving trance
Succumbing her children in her hysterical dance
Teaching them not to take her for granted
As she has always taken in their filth unwanted

#aminspired #nature #naturaldisaster

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Mirror

Constantly reminds me "What is left in you may not be right for me. What is right for you may not be left in me. Tread your path in the right way with whatever is left"

#mirror #mirrortalk

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When I read
I unlearn whatever I have learnt
Getting a new perspective of things

#literacyday18

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A relative: I was about to call you. Where have you been? I missed you so much.
Me: Really? I received many missed calls. Was it you?

#whitelies #mycomeback

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3 things I want to change about myself

1) To listen to the head and not the heart, the former speaks from experience, the latter wants adventure
 2) To use the power of silence over words, the former is potential energy saved, the latter is kinetic energy wasted
3) To live my life my way, not by norms, the former gives me the steering,   the latter gives others the baton

#ichange

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She is a bundle of contradictions. Her confusions will lead her to her final destination

#pointofview

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She decoded Life to build a software called Happiness

#headlines

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Don't kill yourself
Why invite an unwanted guest called Death
When he will surely visit you uninvited later

#reasoonsilive

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Anger
Holding me tight in your clutch
Why you drain me so much?

#anger

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To the oppressors,
What are you trying to prove? What are you trying to claim?
Taking innocent lives is an act of cowardice, a matter of shame
Don't you think you are playing a futile game?

#totheoppressors

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I don't have enough
Strength to battle my solitude
Patience for unwarranted attitude
Time to work on my aptitude
Words to express gratitude

#notenough

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Patriotism is at its peak during a cricket match between India and Pakistan

#madeinindia

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That ring, so common, so familiar
Everyone checks if it's their phone
Every time the situation is quite similar
For every brand has its tone

#ring

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Dear Death,

This is a challenge, can you resist me?
I will celebrate when you visit me
You can do me no harm
You will be captivated by my charm

#deardeath

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Engineer
The word used as my job title
Whose description I haven't found yet

#engineer

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Even 32 teeth cannot stop a nonsensical tongue

#tongue

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Humor is his tool to diffuse any situation

#8wordreview

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We only say goodbye with words
As life is short, the world is small
A probability of meeting again is not zero

#backtoblack

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Democracy
A word used to describe our country
A freedom abused within our country

#democracyday

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If I were a ghost
I don't have to waste time to look good

#ghostlife

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It's sometimes good to put your foot down when you cannot put up with stupidity. Do not try hard to put a smile on someone's face by enduring it patiently

#put

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"Nobody's perfect" is the best way to console a baffled mind

#nobodyisperfect

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I am so lazy
I lost my battle against laziness
Even felt good about it!!!

#lazybum

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Just imagine
Together, you and me writing the chapters of our life
Growing up and growing old as husband and wife
For the last two decades, we did have a helluva ride
Can our friendship and trust handle the unforeseen tide?

#justimagine

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If you let the desires sway
It may lead you astray

#sway

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If I ever forget you
It implies, in my life, you were a cameo

#forgetyou

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I tried to solve the jigsaw puzzle called Peace
But I am unable to find the most critical piece
It's happiness!!!

#peace

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If I ruled the world
I may be haunted
For not fulfilling my vow
I may be taunted
For unnecessary row
So,
Why should I take up a thankless role?
When it was never been my ultimate goal!!!

#gameofthrones

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Note to self
Self-love is the greatest form of love. You will eventually find everything falling into place

#notetoself

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Get your hands dirty, try not to get caught
Wash your hands off whenever you are caught

#wash

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Dear Bully,

You can't scare me, for I know how to take the bull by the horns

Yours ...

#dearbully

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If I had a daughter
I will never ever clip her wings
Instead, will add more feathers for her to soar a lot higher

#deardaughter

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The best way to find yourself
Is to take time off from your busy schedule
And make trips around the world
Experience the facets that the universe provides
Good, bad, ugly ... Wild, tamed ... Have, have-nots

#gandhiquotes

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Why are women portrayed as an object of desire?
Why are women portrayed as an emotional wreck?
Why are women portrayed to be envious and scheming?
Why are women portrayed as incomplete without men?
Why are women portrayed as the one who sacrifices her life for her family?
Its high time women are perceived as they are with no preconceived notions and predetermined future!!!

#women

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Could have been
Should have been
Would have been
Early symptoms of self-pity

#been

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I wish I was Thanos who brought the population under control by snapping the fingers

#sillysuperpower

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I lost my inhibitions and I found new experiences

#allthingslost

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Dear students,

Learning is a continuous process. Books may just be facts, fiction or fantasy. The best book is life and the greatest teacher is time. So learn from your past, apply changes in the present for a remarkable future.

Yours...

#worldteachersday

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If I were an animal, I'd be
Following the rules of the jungle
Restoring the faith of Mother Nature
By nurturing, preserving & maintaining her ecosystem

#worldanimalday

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3rd October

I witnessed lots of old parents abandoned by their children at a temple corridor. Their children must be really thick skinned for this gruesome act. The love that the parents have towards their children and the children have towards their parents cannot be compared. Parents accept the children as they are for their love is almost unconditional

#parentslove

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Dear Heart,

Let me pour my heart out. I always took you for granted and you kept forgiving me. Not it's time to mend my ways and take care of you. Please support me wholeheartedly.

Yours

#worldheartday

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Wednesday Wisdom

Never react to situations or people, stay calm and just act

#wednesdaywisdom

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Dear Winter,

You are always cold toward me. You make me numb. Luckily, we don't cross paths quite often

#winteriscoming

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Where there is love
There are heartaches & heartbreaks!!

#gandhiquotes

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"I saw a dream about you."
"What was it about?"
"In my dream, I was dreaming about you."

#dreamchat

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Relationship Status

I am in a committed, complicated relationship with solitude! I want to be single but it's not letting me!

#relationshipstatus

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Dear daughter,

Never doubt yourself. Nothing can stop you. Go ahead and live your life to the fullest!!!

Yours...

#betibachao

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Don't give the privilege to anyone to create ripples of either ecstasy or misery in your heart

#ripples

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Teacher: You are late. You cannot enter the class. Tomorrow, bring your dad and meet me

Student: Ma'am, I am your student and not my dad

#worldteachersday

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In any relationship, if one needs to owe explanations for ones' actions, the relationship is not for keeps

#tuesdaymusing

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You got freedom from the British but you are still slaves to your dubious minds!!!

#gandhigiri

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Sabarimala Verdict

Woman in me is elated, believer in me is dejected!

#sabrimala

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If your eyes could speak, what would they say?

"My tears already spoke a thousand words, I have nothing more to add!!!"

#eyesspeak

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I can't explain how I feel when you asked me what I feel

#feel

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Sacrifice needs to be experienced and not explained

#sacrifice

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It's my choice
To listen to my inner voice
For any consequence that may arise
I & only I shall pay the price!!

#adulterylaw #section497

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Dear Ears,

You dutifully provide me balance, can you also balance out my life by filtering out the unwanted noise?

Yours...

#bodyparts

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Procrastination gives me hope that I will be alive tomorrow!!!

#givesmehope

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For me,
Tea is a necessity
Coffee is an indulgence

#tealover #coffeeday

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If I could travel the world
As one ends...A new one commences
Marking memories and moments as references

#tourismday

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A guide to get good sleep
Change your mattress and your pillow

#theguide

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He told me "Babe, in our relationship, love is unconditional!"
I wondered "His statement in itself is a condition. Irony!!!"

#condition

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I am no Sheldon Cooper that I need to worry about my spot. Bazinga

#myspot

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I want to write about my
Deepest fears
Darkest fantasies
Clandestine truths
Harmless lies
Endless pursuits
Undisclosed desires
Unlocked emotions

Wild themes from a tamed mind!!!

#ideabank

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If I were a pilot
Though I will be always up in the air
I will remain grounded

#airforceday